[laidbackfella]

Originally Posted by melle_mel

I'm feelin everything y'all are saying. Thank you for your insight.
I think all black women are beautiful, but it's girls like those you all have described that makes it hard for all the real women out there. You shouldn't judge a woman because of what she wears either. That same woman who you see rockin' a suit in a club with ease might also rock tims and tees just as easily. I know I do. Suits are just as comfortable to me as sweats. But I do understand the type you're describing. Those that rely on clothes and other materials are not the ones to which I'm referring.
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Just because she's good to look at does not mean she has no depth. It's tiring to be burdoned with constantly proving that being attractive does not equal being shallow/hollow/dim and dense/obtuse. You just don't know the half of it. It's a constant battle. Even if she is financially stable and sexually gratified, that does not mean she has everything she needs. I think all women should have that going for them, that's minimal. If all you have to give her is a d*ck and a dollar, then you're right, that type probably won't holla at you. Obviously if she's that attractive finding partners can't be that difficult. (Finding a good one is probably the challenge. :lol: )
No one is perfect. Everyone has room to grow/improve. Everyone you meet can influence you in some way if you're willing to receive. Therefore, everyone has "potential". Is your basis for measuring her potential your own? If so, then again, that sounds like a personal problem to me. Sounds like your insecurities are speaking out, don't put that on her or anyone else. Are arched eyebrows really a turn off, or is it the attitude some women carry that's turning you off?

I'd say it's safe to say most of the fellas just shared some low key insecurities about talking to or dealing with above average women.