1- I have dated "thugs" and "nice guys". The thugs that I dated do make me feel protected, and are fun to be with, but I know that they are only temporary. The problem arises when females fail to see that. The reason that some of us keep the "nice guys" as good firends is because we blame ourselves for the problems in our previous relationships, and don't want the same thing to happen with the nice guy. Another reason is that we realize that bf/gf relationships are only temporary, but friendships last forever, and they want their relationship with the nice guy to last forever.
2- I don't have a specific way that I like to be approached. I honsetly don't have a real problem with the 'hey ma let me holla at u 4 a minute". Most of those dudes just haven't been taught any better, so what I do is stand there and conversate with them for a minute and ask them why they approached me the way that they did, and suggest a better approach. Usually, the guys that ended up being my bf did not start out tryna holla, but were friends first and the relationship just evolved from there.
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