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[lilbrownqt05]

Ok... This is gonna be kinda long...

Last year my guy friend and I hung out together. WE were very good friend but he was very mannish. He's one of those people who'd be like "you look good but you'd look better in my bed" and stuff like that. Anyway, we had a few conversations. He asked me to be his first and so I was. So we were together for a while and then we had a falling out so we stopped messing around. So I practiced abstinence for about 7 months when I moved away but then we got back together in November and you know.... So the other day, I had a realization that I shouldn't be someone's cut buddy. I have too much going for myself. I have nice hair, a car, a nice body and high self-esteem. So I told him and he said ok. So we had a parting event and it was GREAT! Oh My Goodness HBCU ladies, I thought I saw the heavens open up but anyway, I think I have feelings for this man because you can't do what lovers do and not expect love feeling to grow. I think I'm so into him. And we're both going to the same college so that's another reason that I'm trying to run away before I get attached. Do I pursue him because I was his first or do I lay low and move on? Thanks in advance!

[Kinkee]

I am confused. So were yall boyfriend and girlfriend or just cut buddies?

[lilbrownqt05]

friends with benifits

[Dr. Ash]

Originally Posted by lilbrownqt05

I have too much going for myself. I have nice hair, a car....

LMAO, look at THIS sh*t. :roll:
Sorry, that just made a lot of stuff run through my head.

ANYWHO, in response to your situation, I think you need to make up your mind. You say you don't wanna be a cut buddy, then make that clear. Why say "I don't wanna f*ck you anymore cuz I have a lot going for me" :lol: and then backdoor and f*ck him one last time. And honestly, from the way you started your story, it seemed like he just wanted to f*ck you anyways, hence all of the comments about you in his bed. So do you really love this brotha, or did you just catch feelings cuz ya'll were bangin'? Also, how does he feel about you? When you told him you didn't wanna be his booty buddy anymore, did he say that he wanted more or was he just like "aight"? Personally, I don't think you should pursue him cuz you were his first, if anything, he would pursue you if he wanted to really be with you.

[JerzeyQueen]

Originally Posted by Dr. Ash

LMAO, look at THIS sh*t. :roll:
Sorry, that just made a lot of stuff run through my head.

ANYWHO, in response to your situation, I think you need to make up your mind. You say you don't wanna be a cut buddy, then make that clear. Why say "I don't wanna f*ck you anymore cuz I have a lot going for me" :lol: and then backdoor and f*ck him one last time. And honestly, from the way you started your story, it seemed like he just wanted to f*ck you anyways, hence all of the comments about you in his bed. So do you really love this brotha, or did you just catch feelings cuz ya'll were bangin'? Also, how does he feel about you? When you told him you didn't wanna be his booty buddy anymore, did he say that he wanted more or was he just like "aight"? Personally, I don't think you should pursue him cuz you were his first, if anything, he would pursue you if he wanted to really be with you.

i Agree with you completely. Couldn't of said it better myself. Personally, I think that he just wanted to fukk from jump.

[Snoop_Doop]

Originally Posted by Dr. Ash

LMAO, look at THIS sh*t. :roll:
Sorry, that just made a lot of stuff run through my head.

ANYWHO, in response to your situation, I think you need to make up your mind. You say you don't wanna be a cut buddy, then make that clear. Why say "I don't wanna f*ck you anymore cuz I have a lot going for me" :lol: and then backdoor and f*ck him one last time. And honestly, from the way you started your story, it seemed like he just wanted to f*ck you anyways, hence all of the comments about you in his bed. So do you really love this brotha, or did you just catch feelings cuz ya'll were bangin'? Also, how does he feel about you? When you told him you didn't wanna be his booty buddy anymore, did he say that he wanted more or was he just like "aight"? Personally, I don't think you should pursue him cuz you were his first, if anything, he would pursue you if he wanted to really be with you.

TooK the words out of my mouth.^^^^Girl, I'ma be as real as ever with you when I say that it seems that you've made the mistake of getting hella good sex confused with love.
1. Just by the way you started this post. Nothing was said about how he treated you or made you feel EMOTIONALLY.
2. Like ^^she^^^ said up there...when you told him you didn't want to be cutbuddies or whatever he was just like "ok". WHAT????? Obviously he's not looking for anything commited right now.
3. You told him you were better than that but turned around and had a sex with him one more time. My sista, I know it's good but don't let it cloud your judgement. Stand by what you said, that you're better. NOT because you have good hair, a car, or a nice body. ALL that is physical, like the "love" a.k.a LUST, that you have for him.
**To sum this up...LET HIM GO. Find someone that will appreciate you not for what you have, but for the inner beauty that you bring with your personality. TRUST ME. Sex with someone that you have REAL feelings for and a REALationship with, will open up the clouds of heaven mos def. PLUS, you won't have to question what you should or shouldn't do in that situation.

[Kinkee]

Yeah I agree with everyone else. He is only using you because you give up the ass.