ISSUES WITH SKIN COLOR

[armybrat]

Now I don't know if anything like this has been posted before, but I'll post it anyways. I was just in the Fellas Forum and I noticed that this website has a great deal of posts about light skinned vs. dark skinned. I was just wondering what your thoughts are about this. Do you think this is a problem? We finally got white people(not all, but some) to except us for the color of our skin, but then black people want to go and split our race into light skinned, medium-brown skinned, and dark skinned, which is just bringing us back to square one. How can we expect other races to accept us if we can't even do it. I know a lot of dark-skinned females who will not try to date a guy if a light-skinned female likes the same guy. They feel like they can't compete. Now I am NOT blaming the brothas for anything, but the fact that most(not all) black men will only date light females does not help the situation.

I also noticed that black people don't really start to seperate themselves into different shades of black until their teenage years, or at least by the time they start high school. I'm not saying this is a fact, but it's just what I have noticed in my 19 years of living. I never knew that I was considered brown-skinned or dark-skinned until I started high school. I've been to numerous elementary and middle schools and the issue of light-skinned vs. dark-skinned NEVER came up. Honestly, before I started high school, I never even notices that there were different shades of black people. But once I started high school, every light skinned person I met had to let it be known that they are light-skinned and I'm not. So my next question is, why do you think this issue gets bigger as we get older? I'm in college now, and my black friends always talk about how they only date light skinned men so their kids won't be dark. It's pretty sad listening to them.

So do you all think that the battle of the light-skin vs. dark-skin will ever end? Will black people ever accept the fact that we are all African-Americans, and not light, medium brown, and dark? I hope so. I know that a lot of people will blame this problem on television, because most television shows have light-skinned actresses and maybe a dark-skinned side-kick (the UPN show 'One On One' for example), but do you think there are any other reasons? Now, I'm not trying to start any arguments, I just want to know what you all think about this issue. Thanks.
PEACE!

[demmeri]

you all know where i stand..that's where me and bush have a lot in common..we shoot from the hip and you automatically know what we stand for just by our names....

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[Daya]

i think their was already a post made like this but, it was more on the male perspective, what i can tell you is that it all leads back to Willie Lynch. Maybe someone else can give you more indepth.

[CrunkMonkey85]

It is a shame that people think like that, not to mention the whole "light skin=beautiful" thing. Personally, I'm attracted to all shades. If you look good, you look good. "You look pretty good for a dark-skinned girl." Naw, f*** that! Beauty is just as probable in any color.

I didn't notice the separation by complexion until I got to Howard... of course, I went to a "white" high school. Maybe... after middle school, we start to look at each other differently, sexually. What kind of people are you attracted to? fat, skinny, blonde, nappy, fried, brown, red, yellow, onyx. Media and peers definitely have an influence in the images you look at the most. I haven't dug into Willie Lynch yet, but that's interesting just how simple it can be to take us out.

I hope we get over it soon, but that seems unlikely. Either it's getting worse, or I'm still seeing it for the first time.

--- This reminds me of the first time I saw a mixed girl: Back in 1st grade, there was this girl in my class named Latoya. Somehow she had people thinking her last name was Jackson for weeks. "Latoya Jackson's in there doing homework." "Who? You mean Latoya Freeman?" "No, she's Latoya Jackson. She said so."

[A'Kaye47]

Man....Ive heard some PRETTY crazy things since Ive been in college. From everything like "You lucky you brown-skinned, I dont date dark-skinned chicks" to " You fine as hell to be dark-skinned" People like that I stay away from because its really sad that you could be so close-minded at THIS age. Ive EVEN heard that ALL dark-skinned chicks are ugly (and YES the guy was VERY serious) :? To not make it seem like dark-skinned is the victim I even know guys who stereotype all lightskin females as being stuck up and high maintenance. You'd be surprised at the stuff guys are content with. My own BROTHER doesnt even date african american females :roll: I just laugh at them becuase in the end they'll NEVER find a soul mate or even a GIRLFRIEND for that matter.

[CPL Thunderstruck]

If your fine, your fine. If your not, then your not. I think its just a propensity of light skinned females being extradonairly freaking beautiful than it is for the darker females. So there because a stereotype that light skinned are generally prettier than darker skinned. Which is true, but has ZERO to deal with the actual beauty of each individual.

But, with that said, I'm a huge sucker for central-american girls. DON'T ASK ME WHY. So my actual feelings on light skinned, dark skinned are just what I percieve moreso than I feel.



OMG. /googly eyed wonderstruck pussy whipped look

Thunder

[xavierette]

I am a light skin female and i have exp the whole color struck thing. I had a friend who was dark and she used to call me things like piss yellow... She madie it sound like it was supposed to be a joke, but i know she had a lot of animosity towards light skin women. I do think really its a bunch of crap