This is for the guys. - Page 2

BlkAv8tor2003 · #8 07-18-2008

TSU hit that right on the head! If guys today were a little more secure with themselves they would not trip everytime a guy they don't know talks to their lady or their lady talks to them, takes her to lunch etc. I know it's hard but it is possible to have a friend of the opposite sex that your not trying to sleep with and they are not trying to sleep with you. Very valuable info can be learned here, guys can get a womans point of view on different things and same for ladies getting the guys point of view. Trick is, they can't have a vested romantic interest in the situation that's underlying! Too many people have hidden agendas and that usually makes it tough. Later in life when your older depending on where you work you will meet the opposite sex and have great friendships but keep things out in front and don't hide anything from significant others and your chances are good that issues are going to be minimal.

TSUblueTiger · #9 07-18-2008

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Originally Posted by BlkAv8tor2003

TSU hit that right on the head! If guys today were a little more secure with themselves they would not trip everytime a guy they don't know talks to their lady or their lady talks to them, takes her to lunch etc. I know it's hard but it is possible to have a friend of the opposite sex that your not trying to sleep with and they are not trying to sleep with you. Very valuable info can be learned here, guys can get a womans point of view on different things and same for ladies getting the guys point of view. Trick is, they can't have a vested romantic interest in the situation that's underlying! Too many people have hidden agendas and that usually makes it tough. Later in life when your older depending on where you work you will meet the opposite sex and have great friendships but keep things out in front and don't hide anything from significant others and your chances are good that issues are going to be minimal.

Great posts. I think trust and communication are critical for a healthy relationship.

HBCUGiRL09 · #10 07-18-2008

i agree

thanks guys

SuperFly · #11 07-26-2008

I think it depends on what you consider "jealous and moody". Quite honestly, when y'all get a new boyfriend/girlfriend women have a propensity to focus on them all the time. Which isn't necessarily a bad thing, I, particularly, just don't feel like hearing a-damn-bout it all the time. Being that I'm a rather honest person, I'll let you know down right quick that I don't care to hear about it. Some people mistake directness with moodiness or jealousy. If I'm friends with a female, its probably because something about her interests me. When all the sudden, all she can do is talk about someone she's with, the thing that I was interested in about you has a tendancy to go away - which means that, as far as I'm concerned, she can go away.

i*heart*pie · #12 08-02-2008

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Originally Posted by SuperFly

I think it depends on what you consider "jealous and moody". Quite honestly, when y'all get a new boyfriend/girlfriend women have a propensity to focus on them all the time. Which isn't necessarily a bad thing, I, particularly, just don't feel like hearing a-damn-bout it all the time. Being that I'm a rather honest person, I'll let you know down right quick that I don't care to hear about it. Some people mistake directness with moodiness or jealousy. If I'm friends with a female, its probably because something about her interests me. When all the sudden, all she can do is talk about someone she's with, the thing that I was interested in about you has a tendency to go away - which means that, as far as I'm concerned, she can go away.

Oh Sugar-Honey-Ice-Tea...

Someone should stop giving this man an opportunity to magnify our flaws. Like men don't irritate the unholy sh*t out of their platonic female friends by talking about their girlfriends like she's God's gift to man...

HBCUGiRL09 · #13 08-03-2008

thanks ya'll