fellas help me

URBAN_QUEEN · #1 10-08-2004

okay heres my problem, i was peepin out this guy during orientation week (im a freshman he is a sohopmore trans student) anyway so i was showin him i was interested without being too forward but he seemed to pay me no attention, so after 2 hard weeks of trying i let it go since i wasnt get any play. well about a week or so later he approached me and we exchanged numbers. he is already a highly wanted guy cuz my school is 85% girls and most of the guys are gay plus he plays basketball and has the letters, but he dont be on the front lines, he keep to his own nigs and hoop all da time. ok, ok so anyway we talked on the phone a few times for hours and things were good but then he stopped calling. when we see each other we speak but why doesnt he call anymore? does this mean he isnt interested anymore? he will return my calls but he doesnt call me and he usually doesnt talk long...what does this mean? fellas i like him so help me get his attention!

PrinceMannyX · #2 10-08-2004

Hotep,

I can say I do that to Females when "They"run out of things to talk about.

You see what I have learn is not to give out all my business the first time I talke to someone.

I have noticed that most girls tell their life story over the Phone and it runs many Men esp Black Men away.

I think that if you guys are still speaking and he's not calling.

I would say He's weighting his options. To him it may be to early in the game to decide on one female.

Prince...Let him SHOP

MustBNice334 · #3 10-09-2004

I don't wanna tell you that he ain't interested, but I don't think you're the only one tryin to get at him. He might just be tryin to do his thing, and doesn't want to tell you that he ain't lookin for anything long term.

Honestly, you might need to stop sweatin the situation and start lookin at some more guys, cause ya boy doesn't sound like a definite.

JsGyrl1110 · #4 10-09-2004

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Originally Posted by MustBNice334

I don't wanna tell you that he ain't interested, but I don't think you're the only one tryin to get at him. He might just be tryin to do his thing, and doesn't want to tell you that he ain't lookin for anything long term.

Honestly, you might need to stop sweatin the situation and start lookin at some more guys, cause ya boy doesn't sound like a definite.

True and also he may feel like its too much too fast for him and the only way he can put some distance in between yall is to not talk to you but thel only real way to find out is to ask him, stay positive, stay safe, keep ya head up and keep it real -1LUV

And remember for this moment in your life this guy is the a major part but never put yourself before a man.....live your life for yourself and if the right on comes along then it will a partnership

Dr.BrandedBison, CP · #5 10-09-2004

His reasoning is right there in the ratio of girls to guys. I don't mean to degrade you, but he's probably looking for the best trophy girl(s) to put on his arm. I suggest you move on. Y'all can keep talking, but I think that theres a good chance that y'all might not be together this year

URBAN_QUEEN · #6 10-09-2004

yea i aint sweating him to his knowledge, i dont even call him anymore but im just confused as to why we hit it off so well and then it just came to a stand still. we didnt tell our life stories or nothing but we did agree we had a lot in common and talked about going out, i didnt think i was being too pushy cuz i didnt talk about havin a relationship or nothing but i dunno, thanks for the advice so far.

MustBNice334 · #7 10-10-2004

Well in that case......someone else might be occupying his time. Maybe it isn't that he doesn't like you.......he just doesn't like you enough. But yeah........fish........sea........you know the phrase.