Can she be too pretty?

[In Rod We Trust]

Originally Posted by melle_mel

Why is it that men sometimes shy away from women who are very attractive (I'm talking stunning/dazzling not just pretty) and confident, carrying herself well and with class? Is gorgeous too beautiful? Is it intimidating? Are they afraid of rejection? What's up?

Hell yea its intimidating

[Riley]

Originally Posted by laidbackfella

No.

No female is too pretty to holla at or have a relationship with.

I talk to the pretty ones like I would talk to the ugly ones.

If I don't talk to em some other dude may.

And I'd rather increase my odds of being the one on the phone with her later that night.

cosigns...

and some of the pretty ones may think something is wrong with them because most of the dudes she comes in contact with are intimidated by her.

[Afro-American]

Originally Posted by Young Chad

for me...I would rather a girl with potential, then one who walks around like she has reached the epitomy of beauty, but that's just Chad...it's all a matter of tastes, and how you feel about yourself..for instance..I'm a white tee and jeans kinda guy, although I look good wearing it (lol)...I dont want a girl who's gonna wear heels and skirts ALL the time...I want a girl who can throw on some sweats and some tims, and still look cute...a girl that can put on nothing but one of my tee's, and STILL make me want to lay her down...

For me, alot of times when I see these girls with these stellar outfits on, and make up, perfectly waxed eyebrows and ish, it's a turn off, first of all, there is no sense of realism for me, and therefore I cannot connect with her...I mean, alot of times, it's the "appearance" of beauty with girls like that, because of the clothes and such, and not that they actually are THAT BANGIN...

Second thing is, when a girl has potential, that you just have to bring out of her, I just, I LOVE that, I dont know why, it's like all those movies where the guy makes a bet with his boys to take the nerd to the prom, and ends up making her over and she becomes the baddest chick in the school...I mean, maybe it's cuz I'm at Central, but it's like, these guys hawk down on these girls and ish (most of them aint even all that) and these girls get the big head, makes you not wanna holla...

It's sometimes nice to take a girl who's on the verge, and give her that confidence she needs to propell herself into full dime-hood...

Lastly, tying in to the whole breaking them out the shell thing, I feel like girls that are EXTRA "Gorgeous" have already been broken out of that shell and are already used to a certain level, and somethings got to give, like Ben and J.Lo, Ben became a metro freakin sexual..gay...anyway, maybe it's cuz I'm still sorta in my beauty shell, and I know if I get wit the right girl, we can bring each other out..

lol am i the only one, but that was kinda sweet in a weird type of wa :lol:
awwwwww @ chad's beauty shell

[Dr. Ash]

Originally Posted by Shoya_Star

lol am i the only one, but that was kinda sweet in a weird type of wa :lol:
awwwwww @ chad's beauty shell

lol, I thought so too

[NeoSoulBrotha]

I'll make it short and sweet. Bad experiences.

For most guys, the pattern they've experienced:

She's Fine = She thinks she is better than you = Rejection

Therefore, we don't bother. Not to say that there's not good one's out there who are really attractive, but many females take it to their head.

If you make it a point to show yourself as approachable, then your problem will disappear. Holla!

[melle_mel]

I'm feelin everything y'all are saying. Thank you for your insight.
I think all black women are beautiful, but it's girls like those you all have described that makes it hard for all the real women out there. You shouldn't judge a woman because of what she wears either. That same woman who you see rockin' a suit in a club with ease might also rock tims and tees just as easily. I know I do. Suits are just as comfortable to me as sweats. But I do understand the type you're describing. Those that rely on clothes and other materials are not the ones to which I'm referring.
.........................?Ornaments?.............. ...............
Just because she's good to look at does not mean she has no depth. It's tiring to be burdoned with constantly proving that being attractive does not equal being shallow/hollow/dim and dense/obtuse. You just don't know the half of it. It's a constant battle. Even if she is financially stable and sexually gratified, that does not mean she has everything she needs. I think all women should have that going for them, that's minimal. If all you have to give her is a d*ck and a dollar, then you're right, that type probably won't holla at you. Obviously if she's that attractive finding partners can't be that difficult. (Finding a good one is probably the challenge. :lol: )
No one is perfect. Everyone has room to grow/improve. Everyone you meet can influence you in some way if you're willing to receive. Therefore, everyone has "potential". Is your basis for measuring her potential your own? If so, then again, that sounds like a personal problem to me. Sounds like your insecurities are speaking out, don't put that on her or anyone else. Are arched eyebrows really a turn off, or is it the attitude some women carry that's turning you off?

[laidbackfella]

Originally Posted by melle_mel

I'm feelin everything y'all are saying. Thank you for your insight.
I think all black women are beautiful, but it's girls like those you all have described that makes it hard for all the real women out there. You shouldn't judge a woman because of what she wears either. That same woman who you see rockin' a suit in a club with ease might also rock tims and tees just as easily. I know I do. Suits are just as comfortable to me as sweats. But I do understand the type you're describing. Those that rely on clothes and other materials are not the ones to which I'm referring.
.........................?Ornaments?.............. ...............
Just because she's good to look at does not mean she has no depth. It's tiring to be burdoned with constantly proving that being attractive does not equal being shallow/hollow/dim and dense/obtuse. You just don't know the half of it. It's a constant battle. Even if she is financially stable and sexually gratified, that does not mean she has everything she needs. I think all women should have that going for them, that's minimal. If all you have to give her is a d*ck and a dollar, then you're right, that type probably won't holla at you. Obviously if she's that attractive finding partners can't be that difficult. (Finding a good one is probably the challenge. :lol: )
No one is perfect. Everyone has room to grow/improve. Everyone you meet can influence you in some way if you're willing to receive. Therefore, everyone has "potential". Is your basis for measuring her potential your own? If so, then again, that sounds like a personal problem to me. Sounds like your insecurities are speaking out, don't put that on her or anyone else. Are arched eyebrows really a turn off, or is it the attitude some women carry that's turning you off?

I'd say it's safe to say most of the fellas just shared some low key insecurities about talking to or dealing with above average women.