career woman or housewife???

[JoshDill]

The way I see it, my children will look up to both their mother and myself. That being the case, I would want the mother of my children to be someone with ambition who is out making a difference in the world, and also striving to better herself and create more opportunities for our family. By the same token, I will hold myself to this same standard.

Do I think professionalism should get in the way of the successful raising of my future children? No. However, I don't feel that it is fair to ask my future wife to put her goals, dreams and career aside to raise my children, because I know that it would be hard for me to do the same.

I think these are things that need to be worked out BEFORE a child comes into the picture, even if that means deciding to hold off on having children until both parties are at a point (emotionally, career-wise) where they can handle the responsibilities that come along with children.

[demmeri]

Originally Posted by PowerofWoman

right.

and you don't think it's important for you to be there?

dude, didn't i say i'd be there after work??? so are we bothy suppose to be at home raising the kids all day? who's gonna pay the bills?? 8-) (tasia)

[Lady Invictus]

I've been thinking about this for a while myself, and I was trying to figure out what I was going to do. I want to take time and nuture my child, and that's something a daycare or nanny does not offer. However I wouldn't want to put a growing career on hold. So I figured i'd do my career thing first and then have kids. And then after the last one is 3 i'd go back into the work force. It all depends on who my mate is and what happy median we can agree upon.

[UnintentionlyMe]

Originally Posted by LeDbYFIRE

Angie I'm sure you know what I think. I like my women dressed up nice, taken care of my kids, fixin my food, and cleanin da house. If she do so much as bring my house shoes to me late when I get home she will get her allowance docked and lose her tv priviliges (sp?). Women gotta know there roll you know what im sayin. woman.........

whoa! i'm glad you are just kidding about that....

[Serpent King]

By the time I'm ready to have kids, I will hopefully have established myself in my career for about 20 years. (Pilot). I want to be flying corporate jets. With that I'll be able to have plenty of time with my family, not to mention be able to fly them anywhere we want for free.
Like somebody said before me, i owuldn't expect my wife to put her carrer on hold to take care of my family. That's gonna be a team effort, and I'd help her out as much as she needed, so that she could continue with her career.

[demmeri]

Originally Posted by PowerofWoman

that's some sh!t you see on mary 8-) (tasia)

*calls up dee west*
whoa! i'm glad you are just kidding about that....

[atlprincess]

I know you have only opened this question to the fellas, but I have been thinking extensively about this topic and have come to the following conclusion. After I graduate from Pharmacy school, I do actually want to practice, get settled, and make some used of my degree.....I mean it would be absolutely pointless if I did anything else. Afterward, when my husband and I decide to have children....I would willingly give up my job to be with my children. I don't feel like I would be losing my identity as a professional woman....it is more important to me that I have a hands-on role with my children. I would still want my husband to work, but also be involved with the children. It was like that for me growing up and I loved every moment of it. When it does come time for my children to go to school and what not, I will resume my career....but I wouldn't mind being a stay at home mom during their developmental years....at all....