career woman or housewife???

demmeri · #1 03-24-2005

aight fellas, what do yall desire ya wife to be...you gotta think about your kids, finances, and time spent together...who's gonna raise ya sons? how are yall gonna get bills paid??? so do you want a stay at home mom, or a career woman ball busting go getter getterdone?

lemme start...

i want a combination of both...yes when are childless i want my booo to pursue her career dreams...be that $100,000 executive or that big timing cashier at walmart....whereever life takes me...she can focus on that then...

but when we have children, i want her focus to be on them in thier early developement...i want her there with them when they need her the most...so like when our kids are like age newborn to like 5, i'd want my babe to stay at home with them...there's nothing worst than having your kids raised by a daycare...but we'd have to find some balance...like i'd be there to help her with the kids aftr work...and i'd totally relieve her on the weekends...she can shop, run errrands...do whatever she wants then...

after the kids are in elementary school, then i'd be comthereabvle with my wife returing to work...

i know you may be convinced that this is chovanistic (sp..fag!), but i disagree...i believe that its very important for a woman to be there for the crucial developing years of her child...call me crazy if you want...

yeah so what do yall think fellas? (tasia)

ClassyWisdom08 · #2 03-24-2005

See, thats the problem. You are thinking from your point of view and not from anyone elses. It's what will work for BOTH parties, not just you.

UnintentionlyMe · #3 03-24-2005

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Originally Posted by MissJazzyAKA

See, thats the problem. You are thinking from your point of view and not from anyone elses. It's what will work for BOTH parties, not just you.

couldn't have said it better myself. but i'm interested in seeing what some of these guys will say...

Buttascotch · #4 03-24-2005

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UnintentionlyMe · #5 03-24-2005

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Originally Posted by Buttascotch530

wut in the world?????? do u plan on raising ur kids at all or is it just for ur wife?

right.

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i believe that its very important for a woman to be there for the crucial developing years of her child

and you don't think it's important for you to be there?

MidWestGentleman · #6 03-25-2005

well with me, my wife can do whatever she wants.if she wants to work, go ahead and do it.i plan on marrying a successful woman anyways which will most likely mean she will have a job.but one thing that i dont like is my kids coming home and neither me or my wife are home until 5 or whatever depending on the jobs we have and keep in mind, i still plan on trying to get on the pga tour so....you know what, i dont feel like thinkin about this right now.ill worry aobut it when it happens.im not gettin married anytime soon so.....

Stealth · #7 03-25-2005

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Originally Posted by PowerofWoman

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Originally Posted by MissJazzyAKA

See, thats the problem. You are thinking from your point of view and not from anyone elses. It's what will work for BOTH parties, not just you.

couldn't have said it better myself. but i'm interested in seeing what some of these guys will say...

Angie I'm sure you know what I think. I like my women dressed up nice, taken care of my kids, fixin my food, and cleanin da house. If she do so much as bring my house shoes to me late when I get home she will get her allowance docked and lose her tv priviliges (sp?). Women gotta know there roll you know what im sayin. woman.........

I'm playin like crazy lol. I actually agree w/ my bro above me. I have ideas of what I would think would be cool but the decision gotta be made between wife and husband. I would think that anybody I married would have some rela good sense and bein a mother would do the best thing whatever she see it as. I of course will treat that woman like a QUEEN too. I got expectations that she'll treat me like a KING as well.