Can she still be a wifey if she already has a baby daddy ??

xavierette · #1 08-12-2005

Ok I know most of you are young college men on ther verge of being very successful in your profession of choice. My question to the men of this board is....In this time in your life would u seriously deal with a lady that has children or would u simply leave her alone. If u would leave her alone then why?

Serpent King · #2 08-12-2005

For me personally, dealing with a woman that had a baby is the type of responsibilty that I'm not ready to deal with. I don't know if people realize it, but when you have a baby, all your priorities change. Where as I might wanna take her out for a night, she has to first find a baby sitter. Do I have to worry about her baby's daddy actin retarded or something? It's just stress that I'm not ready to deal with. I'm not saying that I wouldn't ever wife up some body with a baby, but that's just the thing...I'd be WIFING her up. Right now, I still have to get my **** in order. I can't worry about 2 other people at the same time.

Jamila iz Back! · #3 08-12-2005

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Originally Posted by Serpent King

For me personally, dealing with a woman that had a baby is the type of responsibilty that I'm not ready to deal with. I don't know if people realize it, but when you have a baby, all your priorities change. Where as I might wanna take her out for a night, she has to first find a baby sitter. Do I have to worry about her baby's daddy actin retarded or something? It's just stress that I'm not ready to deal with. I'm not saying that I wouldn't ever wife up some body with a baby, but that's just the thing...I'd be WIFING her up. Right now, I still have to get my Sh*t in order. I can't worry about 2 other people at the same time.

thats fair and understandable.

In Rod We Trust · #4 08-12-2005

Listen to the Lyfe Jennings song "She Got Kids"

Stealth · #5 08-13-2005

^^cosign to all the above and to add on....

Messing with women who have kids is kinda dangerous in several situations. It's almost like askin for a broken heart, because most of the time their remain sprung on there baby's father. That's what I know just from seeing it tho.

Serpent King · #6 08-13-2005

^^^...Basically. I think that' how it should be short of the dude beig a tru ass hole. That's his kid, and maybe was someone he used to mess wit. That's his business he needs to handle. Straight up.

Soundcheck 1898 · #7 08-13-2005

Not to mention the kid.

Its funny somebody posted about this because I had a convo about this the other day. I'm not sure if any of ya'll grew up in single parent households but its a ***** to have male figures in your life that come and go. Even if its just one or two. As selfish as this sounds I don't want to end up becoming that father figure that her kid becomes attached to and end up hurting the kid if something happens.

Even if I was to become her husband I'd still have to conquer the hurdles of being the father figure without beign the actual father which can get really bad once that kid hits adoloscence.

I'm not saying I wouldn't do it but as somebody who has yet to have sex right now I rather deal with women who is like myself. One of the reasons I chose to wait so I wouldn't end up with kids prematurely.