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ladi UniQue · #1 08-21-2006

Why is it so hard for a female who has been hurt in so many relationship (or an relatinship) to trust any man or person she gets together with. Why do we blame the other person for something they did not do .

AKA_PoisonIvy · #2 08-21-2006

IMO, I think much of it has to do with yourself. As you mature, you stop finger-pointing at others and really finger-point at yourself. If you aren't mature enough in yourself and come straight out with your expectations of the relationship, then yes you'll be hurt. Women tend to love and care wholeheartly whereas men (not all.

) but many look at relationships from a subjective point of view. They disregard the emotion and look at the logic. It's in their nature.

If you know you, then you'll know when you're mature enough to handle a relationship because you won't let the past determine your future.

The Big Girl Sweetz · #3 08-21-2006

^^cosign

...when you say that females will blame the current man that they are with for the mistakes her past man has done....you are basically just saying that she is guarding her heart because she has been hurt so many times. It happens...and while yeah it sucks for the man who didn't do anything...its hard to let that guard down so easily. I feel for the men who have gone through this...i really do...but at the same time...i think the men who are in this situation just need to take some time with it....its not going to be easy...but if one man opens up the world to her...she will eventually learn to let go.....but if the man is impatient and not willing to try for this girl...then he is going to add to the problem. Im not trying to bash up on these men or anything....because the ladies also have a lot of growing to do within themselves.

Carmelsun · #4 02-06-2007

It's hard because you don't want to end up in the same situation twice. If you've been through it once you take what you learned to make sure that it doesn't happen again. That does not mean that you stereotype all men as being the same. It means be careful. Your heart is something that should be won, a prize. Not just handed over carelessly to anyone who seems to have interest. That's having self-respect for yourself, and demanding it from anyone who wants to be a part of your life.

Carmelsun · #5 02-06-2007

It's hard because you don't want to end up in the same situation twice. If you've been through it once you take what you learned to make sure that it doesn't happen again. That does not mean that you stereotype all men as being the same. It means be careful. Your heart is something that should be won, a prize. Not just handed over carelessly to anyone who seems to have interest. That's having self-respect for yourself, and demanding it from anyone who wants to be a part of your life.

Carmelsun · #6 02-06-2007

It's hard because you don't want to end up in the same situation twice. If you've been through it once you take what you learned to make sure that it doesn't happen again. That does not mean that you stereotype all men as being the same. It means be careful. Your heart is something that should be won, a prize. Not just handed over carelessly to anyone who seems to have interest. That's having self-respect for yourself, and demanding it from anyone who wants to be a part of your life.

Carmelsun · #7 02-06-2007

Sorry for posting 3 times, stupid computer was acting up!!!!