Half Crazy... (need ya'll advice)

[tRuLyDiViNe_04]

My best friend is a dude, and he went through the same thing, but what he did was just say little things playfully just to see how I would respond. Like, at that time we had a third best friend, and when he'd be talkin to us about his problems with his girlfriend, my best friend would say something like "if we were together we wouldn't never have to worry about nothin like that." Then I would say something like "U right, but I wouldn't even mess up our friendship like that." If u throw the hints she'll pick up on it let u know the deal.

BTW: That third best friend is no longer a best friend, but just a close friend, because he is now an ex-boyfriend.

[starsuga82]

Originally Posted by ReDD HarLeM DeViLL

I mean there are a number of things to seriously consider with that...

Cuz I myself am going thru it as well :? But me and her are cool enough to the point to realize, it's just US being US and there is no real eXchange of any serious emotions. So we can still be friends and still chill and hang out, have seX whenever, and maintain our brother sister relationship.

:twisted:

:lol: Wait....Are you serious ? ^^^

[HERSHEE3D]

Yeah, ReDD HarLeM DeViLL: is bugging on that 1! But that's neither here nor there [I luv when folk say that]

Seriously, Brother u sound like you and this sister are really good friends and u wouldn't want to disrespect & hurt her-that's love :P So, you really wouldn't want to follow ReDD HarLeM DeViLL's advice nor simulate his story for yourself.

My suggestion:
****, Im going through the same situation as a 23yr old female. Now, to help....I will say that my good friend and I of 8-9years have verbally expressed our love for each other. [Yeah its that deep & just as weird]We met as athletes in our city team. Our problem is that we can't stay in the same state, continent, or city long enough to REALLY achieve that grown folk status. Plus, we are 23 years old....we are still growing into ourselves, plus other ****. We have been intimate and it was the Best thing [Trust :!: ] But is even better was that we can talk about our situation & laugh [at times] about us. If it is meant to be...

Tips:
1)Talk about it. If u never bring it up, the **** WILL hang on your mind. And me being a lil bet experience KNOW u are Truly Feeling her. What immature male would write a post about this personal detail.

2)Keep the Laughter going.

3)Keep your self-respect. U never know how **** will go & well someone folk heads get a lil bit bigger and act out of character. Also, these sensitive subjects bring out the shy kids in us all. JUST KNOW THAT

4)Be Confident. No Matter what

5)Please For Gods Sake....REMAIN Your own person. [A mistake a lot of females make & males that are head over heels]

~Best of Luck
P.S. Just follow your heart & you will be good!

[ReDD HarLeM DeViLL]

See what I meant by that was even tho me and her do what we do, and still maintain that Bro-Sis bond with no eXchange of emotions is mainly due to the fact that neither of us really wants to give in (or admit) to what we truely feel for each other. We have been friends for a very good amount of time, and tell each other everything without censor. And for us to put a cap on it and labeling it "Boyfriend-GirlFriend" it would nip a whole lot in the bud and put limits on a few things. That's why I said it was US being US, cuz me and her do what we do how we do it :P

But basically, what I said what similar to what you said eXcept me and my Friend have no need to discuss our feelings for each other because it is what it is. She Knows no matter what, I am going to be there and that is on the strength of me being a good friend.

[Dr. Ash]

I think you should leave it at a brother/sister level until the time is right, that is, until she shows some interest in being more than friends. Most women have the brother type around because we want someone that we can feel comfortable with and not have to worry about any sexual tension or someone trying to get them some or any of that drama that a relationship can bring. Sometimes putting your feelings out there can cause a woman to withdraw from the friendship, but then again, it may lead to a beautiful relationship, who knows :? .....either way, you're taking a risk. I had a guy friend that started dropping hints that he wanted to be a little extra friendly so one night I just asked him what was up. He basically told me that he wanted to be my first, we've been friends for so long, blah, blah, blah and I slowly but surely stopped communicating with him cuz I no longer felt that level of comfort that I enjoyed so much in the past.

[HERSHEE3D]

okay, Okay, brother ReDD HarLeM DeViLL, u came back strong :!:

I really have to say what u posted last, I can undertand "how u do" [that makes me think of this Dave Chapplle episode when he was that crack head....oh, sorry I tend to get off topic]

To be honest brother, maybe I should start your approach and stop all revealing of the love feelings. Because we communicate but he ususally feels a lil weird w/ us sharing and talking about "feelings" a lilttle too much. And truth be told me too-its getting old....I love that friendly/best friends/about to hit on u flirting feeling.....yes, if we continue that is what we should bring back.

Damn, Good Luck to me [and to the brother that put out the post]
~Hershee3d

[Soundcheck 1898]

I appreciate all of the above comments. It was pretty interested in seeing what others had to say when it came to this kind of situation because I knew that I wasn't the only one going through it or who has gone through it. It sucks because its a gamble and I really don't want to ruin a good friendship over it but I've seen how she's done other cats who've tried the same thing, but their relationship wasn't quite like ours (not even close to be honest). I don't have to worry about it for a while because she's not going to be their next semester so i have some time to sit and think about it which is cool.


Any other comments?