Half Crazy... (need ya'll advice) - Page 3

GaPeAcH · #15 06-01-2004

since yall are going to be apart next semester then take the time to continue the friendship and then decide what u wanna do

natalie_g · #16 06-08-2004

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Originally Posted by Dr. Ash

I think you should leave it at a brother/sister level until the time is right, that is, until she shows some interest in being more than friends. Most women have the brother type around because we want someone that we can feel comfortable with and not have to worry about any sexual tension or someone trying to get them some or any of that drama that a relationship can bring. Sometimes putting your feelings out there can cause a woman to withdraw from the friendship, but then again, it may lead to a beautiful relationship, who knows :? .....either way, you're taking a risk. I had a guy friend that started dropping hints that he wanted to be a little extra friendly so one night I just asked him what was up. He basically told me that he wanted to be my first, we've been friends for so long, blah, blah, blah and I slowly but surely stopped communicating with him cuz I no longer felt that level of comfort that I enjoyed so much in the past.

I agree with that completely cause sometimes you get tired of having to deal with guys who want to hit on you all the time and you just want to chill with a dude that's JUST A FRIEND. and that happens to me all the time when I get to be friends with a dude but he wants to be more and I'm not feeling that so eventually I'll stop talking to him or we still talk but not like we used to SAD :cry:

Natalie

vanity reloaded · #17 06-08-2004

Umkay, my "friend" and I went halfcrazy last semester and we too had been cool since freshman yr. Let's just say that it didn't work out the way we planned it to

But you live and you learn. All I can say is that if it's meant to be it will surely be. My cousin married her best friend of 14 yrs last summer. He told us the same exact story that you did at their reception. If it really is that serious to you and you feel confident in making it be known, then I say go for it :wink: Let us know what happens

Soundcheck 1898 · #18 06-08-2004

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Originally Posted by natalie_g

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Originally Posted by Dr. Ash

I think you should leave it at a brother/sister level until the time is right, that is, until she shows some interest in being more than friends. Most women have the brother type around because we want someone that we can feel comfortable with and not have to worry about any sexual tension or someone trying to get them some or any of that drama that a relationship can bring. Sometimes putting your feelings out there can cause a woman to withdraw from the friendship, but then again, it may lead to a beautiful relationship, who knows :? .....either way, you're taking a risk. I had a guy friend that started dropping hints that he wanted to be a little extra friendly so one night I just asked him what was up. He basically told me that he wanted to be my first, we've been friends for so long, blah, blah, blah and I slowly but surely stopped communicating with him cuz I no longer felt that level of comfort that I enjoyed so much in the past.

I agree with that completely cause sometimes you get tired of having to deal with guys who want to hit on you all the time and you just want to chill with a dude that's JUST A FRIEND. and that happens to me all the time when I get to be friends with a dude but he wants to be more and I'm not feeling that so eventually I'll stop talking to him or we still talk but not like we used to SAD :cry:

Natalie

Its pretty so hopefully this makes sense. My friend came up with the term "teddy bear" to describe what u just mentioned. Basically, its the polar opposite of a friends with benefits. You pretty much are the platonic boyfriend substitute. Fortunately we maintain a decent balance between the two but i speak from experience when i say that when most guys usually catch wind that they are about to be a teddy bear they usually begin to fall back and pretty much the same thing happens as mentioned above but its initiated by us. It almost got to that level but things have evolved over time fortunately. I can only hope that they continue to do so...

AcgieLegend · #19 06-08-2004

it kinda bothers me when people say there is gonna be awkwardness...

Only thing that makes it awkward is the parties involved. if you go after it and she dont bite...just continue to be on about some nonsense stuff.

For real, i up and sung my swan song to my homegirl my freshman year, she hit the 4F on me (Rejection). BUt after a few days we were back to chucklin and what not. nothing even that serious IMHO.

If i come with my heart and catch 4F then i just take it back up, and continue a freindly relationship.

So if you are feeling awkward i make it my duty to make sure i still act as dumb/goofy/stupid as i used to so you know im not worried about what just went down.

Black_Beauty · #20 07-04-2005

I agree with Dr. Ash... so is there an update on this topic?

Soundcheck 1898 · #21 07-17-2005

LOL dang... i didn't even notice this joint was brought back from the grave till now lol....

Well.... here is your update....

My feeling only ended up gettin stronger for her and came to a screeching halt when she ended f*cking a friend of mine that she met THROUGH ME and didn't tell me that they were talking. I told her the first time he tried to get at her in the fall it was a bad look... cus he's my homeboy nonetheless i know all of his dirt and how he treats women... i old her just enough for her to know the deal but she didn't listen.

Fast forward to Spring 2005 and she holla'd at him behind my back only to find out that he was in a committed relationship with another woman (who i also know also and call sister lol). She's never been with another man in college (she lost her virginity in HS but he was her first since then). She shoulda listened to a brotha but hey... sh!t happens. Needless to say my feelings are gone. Don't even talk to her anymore to be honest (i know some could say i'm wrong for that but hey... can't stand to be around or talk to her now lol)...