Half Crazy... (need ya'll advice)

Soundcheck 1898 · #1 05-28-2004

Aiight here's the scenario:

I... ahem... i mean MY FRIEND has been cool with this one girl since fall semester freshmen year. Ou... THEIR relationship grew fairly quickly and w... THEY ended up being really tight friends on some brother/sister stuff. Lately, he's been coppin feelings (yea yea she got me... um HIM

) but he's tryin to ignore them for fear of ruining the relationship they have right now. Plus she's on the tip where she says she'll never be in a intimate relationship with her best friend for the same reasons (which I understand). She looks at him like a brother now, and he did look at her as a sister but when certain thoughts popped in his head, figured that was nasty and not a good idea lol... :lol:

Now after all of this is said in done I.. HE's not trying to be up in his room singing HalfCrazy up in his room by himself because ish didn't work out. What are ya'll thoughts on hooking up with a friend and what do you think I... um HE should do... :wink:

Pursue or not to Pursue... that is the question...

ReDD HarLeM DeViLL · #2 05-28-2004

I mean there are a number of things to seriously consider with that...

Cuz I myself am going thru it as well :? But me and her are cool enough to the point to realize, it's just US being US and there is no real eXchange of any serious emotions. So we can still be friends and still chill and hang out, have seX whenever, and maintain our brother sister relationship.

But for those that don't have that bond, you gotta be careful, cuz you could lose a good friend, and gain a pain. My friends just made that mistaKe of going out with each other.... and now, they can't even looK at each others faces, nor can they stand to be in the same room with each other. And they's been friends since the 3rd grade

But if you can get her to understand that it would just be a way of ...let's say, yall eXpanding your friendship (*And she buys it :lol: *) then hell yeah!!! Do what you do... It worKed for me :wink: But I'm good with mines, I could sell Fire in Hell 8) :twisted:

The First · #3 05-28-2004

^^^well now that the magical happy man from happyland is finished, I'm gonna be real. if she says she ain't gon' be feelin' you-I mean "him" then you should just let it burn, bruh. Cuz in all reality if you try to pursue it, and she ain't bitin', then ain't gon' be nothin' but awkwardness, and you may end up feelin' resentful like I-er my friend did in the exact same situation....just my feelins on the subject

Soundcheck 1898 · #4 05-28-2004

^Yo good look, all the stuff u mentioned went through my mind... what about the ladies... i noticed that guys usually have the same perspecitve on this, but it differs with ya'll which is why I posted it in this forum, what do ya'll think?

ReDD HarLeM DeViLL · #5 05-29-2004

But in addition, you can play the awKward feelings off as if you were just playing around with her, and she'll leave it at that. If by any chance she really is or does feel uncomfortable with your actions or what you say, she will inform you in some way...

and why aren't the ladies responding??? Sheeeeeesh yall are some help!

GaPeAcH · #6 05-29-2004

well i have a friend that i go through that with..one minute one of us is feeling the other one but one of isnt and the next minute we're back to being very close friends......truthfully its hard to tell u what u should do on this....but if it were me i would think if we were really tight then u would come to me with it and let me know what u feeling.....also let her know that you care about ur friendship just as much and wouldnt want to damage it....

jadekiss · #7 05-30-2004

I honestly won't even GO there w/ a man if he isnt' my freind on some level. I think that friendship is an important aspect in any relationship. I've been in plently of relationships that didn't last, they were like my brother before it happened. And because the freindship was so strong that after the awkwardness passed, we were right back on that level. With freinds being freinds again after a romantic relationship passes, they should have enough trust and love for that person to make the freindship work like it should. That's if they were close enough in the first place .