Ladies... Another Female wit a Good Man..BUT, I'm tired

Finomenol2u · #1 06-02-2004

Okay, check me out...

I just started getting into the dating scene and... I've been play'n the field ..some would say. But, my issue is, now I have a man and he is fine as what. Its coo cause female try him and he isn't with it. He is intelligent, an excellent Athlete and he respects me... he "says" he loves, but I don't fall that easy. Its not like he's getting any and no promises or incentives have been made. I'v covered every angle thats he could come from and he seems alright. The reason that I'm not trippin over him is cause.. I'm in love with a guy thats been in my life for over a year, he just has a girl and lives in ATL. I see him during the summer and holidays, and we hang out when I'm there. This guy in Atlanta wanted to go with me b4 he had his gi;r but I said whats the poin cause he lives 500 miles plus form me and it would be to much... so we are friends. Its not like we're playin dirty cause I've talked to his"girl" on several occasions and he had told her that he cares about me and that we will reamain in one anothers life.. and she didn't argue.
So help me out, dude from ATL has mad game and I have acquired some along the way. He talks to a ton of girls, but when I need him I get him. I like the non commitment with him and I like what he has to say. At times I think that my bf is too loving and not aggressive enough. He's hard wit his boys but he allows me to get away wit too much and maybe not hard enough as the guy in ATL is. I like the game and I like the challenge...so whats up. I'm a "good girl" and guys love me as a challenge, and I like the "thug, playa" type?

What do ya'll think

Slim GoodyN757 · #2 06-02-2004

Girl, what the heck is your problem. I'm not trying to be mean but I think you are quite ungrateful. Look you got a man that likes u a lot but u stuck on someone else who got a girl. If you leave him for that guy in ATL you might regret it b/c if he is the playa type what makes you think he won't play you. Be happy with the good man that you have now and make it work b/c good men are hard to come by and it seems like you got a good man, but u just being a lil greedy. In the end, if you don't fix your relationship now, trust someone will be there to fix it for you.

caramelcandyb · #3 06-03-2004

Girl, what the hell is the problem :?: :?: You have a man that is devoted to and loves you, but you want someone that is already attached because he's a "thug" :?: :!: :x What the hell :?: :!: :?: :!: I can tell you from personal experience that the "thug" may be what you think you want, but in the end, you'll realize that the man who loves you and is loyal to you is the better person to have in your life. Why the hell would you be the stereotypical "good girl" looking for a "thug"? Keep it up and you'll end up with a man that abuses you, disrespects you or cheats on you. Stay with the one you're with. You'll be thankful later.

d.blaze · #4 06-03-2004

wheew i'm glad i wasn't the only one upset about this

Soundcheck 1898 · #5 06-04-2004

What do we think...

I had to read ya post twice because i didn't get it at first. This looks too familiar because its something I went through spring semester+fall semester my freshmen year. My suggestion to you is stop wasting the "good" one's time. Sooner or later **** is gonna hit the fan and its gonna get ugly so you might as well let him lose so he can find somebody that will value him the same way he values them. Hopefully, because he's looked at as a good man hopefully it won't be hard for him to find another woman. Hope your not offended... just being real.

C Diddy · #6 06-04-2004

I was in a similar situation before. Not with somebody being a thug or nothing, well not really. One guy had a little hustle going on and I knew he had other females...another one was the type you could take home to moms with no problems. Ultimately I decided who would be better for me. I wasn't tryin to have no dude stress me out because of his "side job". Just think what would be better in the long run and the decision shouldn't be that hard if you have your head on straight.

Jamila iz Back! · #7 06-04-2004

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Originally Posted by monkrenny

What do we think...

I had to read ya post twice because i didn't get it at first. This looks too familiar because its something I went through spring semester+fall semester my freshmen year. My suggestion to you is stop wasting the "good" one's time. Sooner or later Shiiiiiiiyiiiit is gonna hit the fan and its gonna get ugly so you might as well let him lose so he can find somebody that will value him the same way he values them. Hopefully, because he's looked at as a good man hopefully it won't be hard for him to find another woman. Hope your not offended... just being real.

I feel you a 100%...