I Been GONE FOR A MIN NOW AM BACK... With a Question!!

sabrinaashields17 · #1 09-06-2008

Ladies, Now we all have standards on the type of person that we choice to date. WE ALL have made What Guys Call "THE LIST"!! FOR THOSE OF YOU WHO NEED CLARIFCATION : NICE SMILE, FUNNY, JOB ECT..
Do you Feel that this is the reason why most women that Make this "LIST" are Single for longer periods of time??

Fellas can also post there thoughts....

TheAllure1 · #2 09-09-2008

Love can happen between anyone at any time. I know this girl that only dates light-skinned dudes with long hair. And she has been single and more than likely will stay single for a long time. In the end dont limit yourself when it comes to love, because you never know...

Phylicia215 · #3 09-09-2008

I think women should set standards for themselves. Its a difference between things that are nescersary and things that are superficial. If I want a man with an education beyond high school, I dont think that is too much to ask for. But If I only want a man who has the newest Lexus, then that probably isnt the best standard to set for yourself.

I think some women are single for a long times becuase they may have some unrelaistic standards that no man could ever life up too.

smc112 · #4 09-10-2008

Some women can make a very unrealistic list, and some do end up single for a longer period of time than they would desire. The key is to make a list of things that you can't absolutely deal with but make sure it is not based on shallow things. For example, you might be able to deal with a mate that leaves his dirty socks on the floor, but you can't deal with someone who has character issues or who has a bunch of outside kids. Those are just some examples and there are more depending on a person's preference. Anyway, the key is to find someone who is 80% and be willing to work on the other 20% with the person. Everyone has room to grow! People must realize that everyone is a working progress. So don't expect the person you meet to be the 100% you are looking for. If they are the 100%, what do they need you for? LOL

TheAllure1 · #5 09-10-2008

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Originally Posted by smc112

Some women can make a very unrealistic list, and some do end up single for a longer period of time than they would desire. The key is to make a list of things that you can't absolutely deal with but make sure it is not based on shallow things. For example, you might be able to deal with a mate that leaves his dirty socks on the floor, but you can't deal with someone who has character issues or who has a bunch of outside kids. Those are just some examples and there are more depending on a person's preference. Anyway, the key is to find someone who is 80% and be willing to work on the other 20% with the person. Everyone has room to grow! People must realize that everyone is a working progress. So don't expect the person you meet to be the 100% you are looking for. If they are the 100%, what do they need you for? LOL

Point taken...