HOW DO YOU WANT TO BE TREATED?

[Dnell-n-Atl]

WHATS UP LADIES, I HAVE SOME QUESTIONS ABOUT HOW DO YOU ALL WANT TO BE TREATED OR APPROACHED. IM NOT TALKIN ABOUT GAME OR NOTHIN BUT JUST YOU ALL POINT OF VIEW.

1. WHATS THE DEAL WITH THE WANTING THE THUG OR THE DUDE THAT WONT DUE RIGHT BY YOU. YOU COULD HAVE A BF AND HE COULD CHEAT/LIE/OR EVERY ABUSE(DONT CONDONE IT). AND SOME(NOT ALL) WILL INSTANLY SAY WELL HE LOVE ME OR I SHOULD GIVE ME ANOTHER CHANCE. OR YOU WILL LEAVE THAT ONE AND JUST GO STRAIGHT BACK INTO THE SAME KIND OR RELATIONSHIP. THIS BOTHERS ME BECAUSE A GOOD MAN WILL COME AND THE FIRST THING YOU WILL DO IS KEEP HIM AS A GOOD FRIEND OR HE IS NOT MY TYPE, BUT THIER TYPE IS THE KIND THAT LIE AND CHEAT ON YOU. SO WHAT ARE YOUR VIEWS ON GIRLS WANTING THE BAD MEN.

2. I HAVE HEARD COUNTLESS FEMALES SAY THEY ARE GETTING TIRED OF A DUDE TRYIN TO GET THEIR NUMBER AND SAYIN "SHORTY", "MA","REDBONE"...ETC SO WHATS YOUR IDEA WAY FOR A DUDE TO APPROACH YOU..... BUT WHEN A DUDE COMES UP TO YOU AND SPEAKS POLITE AND MANNERFUL GIRLS THINK HE A LAME OR ACTS WHITE LOL, SO HOW WHAT ARE SOME THINGS THAT YALL LIKE OR DISLIKE.

OH YEA THESE ACCOUNTS ARE NOT PERSONAL JUST SOMETHING THAT SEEN AROUND AND ALWAYS WANTED TO KNOW THE DEAL......

[Slim GoodyN757]

I have had my share of "THUG" boyfriends and i have not had any good experiences with them.They smoked or drank a lot, sold they drugs and whatnot but as I grew older i realized that a THUG is not what i want at all. I don't even know why i used to deal with them but from asking other girls some say that they like them b/c they feel protected around them, they are aggressive, they take risks, they like their style, I could go on and on but there is no reason that would make me want to go back to dating THUGS.

2.I would love for a guy to approach me in an intelligent way. If you don't know my name please let that be the first thing you ask me and don't say"YO ma, whats yo name. Being polite and being real with me gets you major bonus points. Being able to have a good convo on different subjects is a plus also. To get my attention please don't grab me and then expect me to want to exchange numbers b/c it's not happening. Basically, to sum it all up I don't like it when brothas be spitting game, I don't have time for games, come at me correct, not like I'm a piece of meat. Respect me, Treat me with the courtesy that you would give your mother.

[Afro-American]

1--first one is a stereotype, not all of us like thugs....talk about why guys have this fixation on light skinned chicks with long hair and ill get back to ya :roll:
2--things to get a MY attention is simply respect...no matter if ya come up all nice and talk about "hi, bla bla bla"...or "YO MA"...IF I CAN smell ya trying to push a game....even if the "thuggish" game or "IM A NICE GUY" game i wont even respond.....like you just have to be real/honest/ and respectful....cause even the supposed nice ones use a game like when they grab your hand and/or waist and dont even KNOW you and ask your name...ick.....might have germs or something....know the first-meet boundaries damnit!..oh yeah another big plus is not about how much ya talk but whatcha talk about, if its unique and not always about sports/love/sex/jay-z and :lol:

watch 2 can play that game when vivica fox first met morris chestnut, he didnt touch her, was honest, and was genuinely interested in her conversation...thats an ideal meetup....but then again ummm he is morris chestnut :twisted:

[Slim GoodyN757]

Originally Posted by HU-Queen

1--first one is a stereotype, not all of us like thugs....talk about why guys have this fixation on light skinned chicks with long hair and ill get back to ya :roll:
2--things to get a MY attention is simply respect...no matter if ya come up all nice and talk about "hi, bla bla bla"...or "YO MA"...IF I CAN smell ya trying to push a game....even if the "thuggish" game or "IM A NICE GUY" game i wont even respond.....like you just have to be real/honest/ and respectful....cause even the supposed nice ones use a game like when they grab your hand and/or waist and dont even KNOW you and ask your name...ick.....might have germs or something....know the first-meet boundaries damnit!..oh yeah another big plus is not about how much ya talk but whatcha talk about, if its unique and not always about sports/love/sex/jay-z and :lol:

watch 2 can play that game when vivica fox first met morris chestnut, he didnt touch her, was honest, and was genuinely interested in her conversation...thats an ideal meetup....but then again ummm he is morris chestnut :twisted:

and then again its a movie but wouldn't it be great to have a morris chestnut in our lives

[tRuLyDiViNe_04]

1- I have dated "thugs" and "nice guys". The thugs that I dated do make me feel protected, and are fun to be with, but I know that they are only temporary. The problem arises when females fail to see that. The reason that some of us keep the "nice guys" as good firends is because we blame ourselves for the problems in our previous relationships, and don't want the same thing to happen with the nice guy. Another reason is that we realize that bf/gf relationships are only temporary, but friendships last forever, and they want their relationship with the nice guy to last forever.

2- I don't have a specific way that I like to be approached. I honsetly don't have a real problem with the 'hey ma let me holla at u 4 a minute". Most of those dudes just haven't been taught any better, so what I do is stand there and conversate with them for a minute and ask them why they approached me the way that they did, and suggest a better approach. Usually, the guys that ended up being my bf did not start out tryna holla, but were friends first and the relationship just evolved from there.

[Dnell-n-Atl]

Originally Posted by HU-Queen

1--first one is a stereotype, not all of us like thugs....talk about why guys have this fixation on light skinned chicks with long hair and ill get back to ya :roll:
2--things to get a MY attention is simply respect...no matter if ya come up all nice and talk about "hi, bla bla bla"...or "YO MA"...IF I CAN smell ya trying to push a game....even if the "thuggish" game or "IM A NICE GUY" game i wont even respond.....like you just have to be real/honest/ and respectful....cause even the supposed nice ones use a game like when they grab your hand and/or waist and dont even KNOW you and ask your name...ick.....might have germs or something....know the first-meet boundaries damnit!..oh yeah another big plus is not about how much ya talk but whatcha talk about, if its unique and not always about sports/love/sex/jay-z and :lol:

watch 2 can play that game when vivica fox first met morris chestnut, he didnt touch her, was honest, and was genuinely interested in her conversation...thats an ideal meetup....but then again ummm he is morris chestnut :twisted:

you make some good points but you also pushin out a steriotype. not all dudes like lightskin females with long hair. just because thats what rap videos and tv makin people believe that they are sexiest or whateva not every dude is just attracted to that.

and about morris chestnut the one thing that you have to remember about that is that is a movie. that was done in character. There wouldnt be a movie if she would of said no and the other thing i dont think it would be in his character to play a thug ( i dont think) and even if he did i would bet my bottom dollar that he could do the same thing that these dudes out here would do and he would get her cuz its just that....a movie. then you also have to think about the other movies that is promoting that kind of behavior. rarely in a urban movie you see a dude come correct. its either hey ma.....or whats ever good. even in drumline the first way he came at her was like that. so there are just as many movies doing the opposite of that.

[EkWoah]

i just read what some of y'all said and how you be saying things like "i want him to come up to me intelligently" or whatever but then you say you dont like game, and i was just wondering if he wasn't raised that way, and if thats not the way he acts, then him pretending to be intelligent would just be deceiving you right? and instead of "dissing" people because of the type of culture they were brought up in maybe you should look past that and see what kind of person they really are, plus, the intelligent dudes are the ones you have to look out for, because they be plotting complex ish, and im sure they take more risks daily than any thug, whether it be in the stock market or whatever :P besides, people like to portray themselves as something they arent a lot of the time, so that intelligent "nerd" you know might be the real thug behind closed doors and vice versa