Ladies...

starsuga82 · #1 07-25-2004

Ladies I was reading a post on here the :I'm tired of being hurt post and it made me think of a recent conversation I was having with a friend of mine. Why, we, being young women are so pressed to be in serious relationships? I mean isn't true that most men our age aren't ready to "settle down" until they get into their thirties. And one thing we don't do as black women is date. Yeah you can date someone but not often do black women consitantly date different men( And I'm not talking about pimpin or talking to someone on the side. I mean the men know about each other) and not just settle for who is ok. My friend made reference to the show Sex in the City. Those women dated and why is it when I meet people women that aren't black they are always in these great commited relationships. Do you think it could be because they date around first before settling down?

Poody · #2 07-25-2004

well i know a few people, me and my friends for example, who date like that. sometimes i feel like i don't want to be in a big committed relationship yet. i feel like i'm young so why act like i'm married. i haven't had a serious relationship in a while, not that i can't have one but cuz i choose not too. No i don't be fukking around either, i'm not a sex maniac. i just like to go out and have fun.

Afro-American · #3 07-25-2004

me personally, ive never been in a serious relationship the ones involving "wow i love you more than like you" so one day i would like to experience that...for me i guess there is no rush...its just i would like to experience something like that at least once ya know before i do settle down so at least i know if i really do have strong feelings for the person i do decide to marry because ive been through it before....ok time to stop the mushiness..........
but im planning on being a single adoptive parent(labor scares me) so ummm i really dont think im going to marry anytime near 30 lol

Sweet_Girl · #4 07-25-2004

I feel that there are alot of females that are in good committed relationships but there are just as many that are not. The thing with me is I am trying to finish up school but in that process I know that God will send me that right man that will be right for me. I don't really feel that I am not totally ready for a committed relationship I just feel that I am trying to finish school. I have always been told that I am very mature for my age and when I look around at some of the guys today I do see alot that are not interested in anything serious, but it depends on where there maturity is. I have had many decent guys approach me that did want a more serious relationship so there are soome out here. To answer one question I do look for someone on a mature mode that will want to settle down.

Astarr1 · #5 07-26-2004

I know for me i dated my boyfriend from junior high school all the way to college before i fiqured out he wasn't the one. So now im taking my time having fun and just being me. If the fellas can't get with that then they don't need to be with me. There's just to much going on at school to try and focus one person cause you'll alwyas feel like your missing soemthing that's how i felt my first couple of months. I felt like i was missing out on everything so i opted to just being friends. If it was meant to be then it'll be. 8)

starsuga82 · #6 07-29-2004

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Originally Posted by Astarr1

I know for me i dated my boyfriend from junior high school all the way to college before i fiqured out he wasn't the one. So now im taking my time having fun and just being me. If the fellas can't get with that then they don't need to be with me. There's just to much going on at school to try and focus one person cause you'll alwyas feel like your missing soemthing that's how i felt my first couple of months. I felt like i was missing out on everything so i opted to just being friends. If it was meant to be then it'll be. 8)

I agree I sometimes hear people comment on how after we leave our HBCUs atmospheres that there will be less likely of a chance to meet better rounded single black individuals. I had a guy say once that the women in the AU Center should stop being so stuck up because it was the last time they would be around such eligible black men. I think he was a little bitter, but as far as being around a massive group of hard working intelligent black students and maybe not getting the chance to be in an environment like that after graduation; I think he was right.

I'm not looking for love in college but if it come my way cool.

chrittypie · #7 07-29-2004

I just think females r tired of being shitted on...i know i am