She said I am the one... But the kid is not my son

lilHUgurl · #1 07-26-2004

I have a very close friend of mine in a dilemma. She is a college bound student andher mother is having a child in two months. This girl is very intelligent and has a full scholarship to her dream school.But her mother wants her to stay home so that she can take care of the baby. She is a single mother and is still young. if she stays my friend wil be forced to go to a junior college or go to a nearby college that is of a lower caliberpart time and work. of course this isn't fair. The kid isn't hers but the girl will be forced to take care of it, and of course she wants to see her baby brother grow up but what can she do? Do you know anybody in a similar situation?

lyric_orleans · #2 07-26-2004

I have never known ne/one 2 be in that type of situation...but from my point of view the girl's mother should be ashamed of even asking that of her daughter. A parent is supposed to want the best for their children regardless of their own current predicaments. This is truly disturbing. I pray to God your friend doesn't give in to her mother's selfish (and clearly ridiculous) request. I could go on...but I have my own problems...I hope everything works out for ole' girl.

Miss_404 · #3 07-26-2004

I knew someone who was in a similiar situation. Her mother has a bunch of kids and wanted her to stay and help her, even to the point of not completing the girls financial aid forms on time so she couldn't go to school.

Your friend she still go off to college. It's not her baby, so why should she have to take care of him. And she wont be missing her brother/sister grow up, 1. Cause she will still be home for holidays, breaks, and summers. 2. cause the kid will be only 4 or 5 by the time she gets out of school.

LuvsAngel · #4 07-26-2004

Thats sad but it does happen. I know that all thru high school and middle school I missed out on a lot because I had to take care of my siblings. I didnt do proms, dances , homecoming nada.
If I didnt make a way out I'd still be at home taking care of my siblings. My mom and me don't have the best relationship b/c I stopped doing what she wanted me to. She held off on filling out financial aids paper etc.

Its been a struggle but I will be attending HU (Hampton University) this fall.
I hope your friend finds a way out of this situation.
I moved out at 17 and been living on my own for the past 2 years (bills are no joke)

C Diddy · #5 07-26-2004

I have no advice...but I can related to the situation.

One of my closest friends at school had to transfer to a college in NY because her mom is having a baby. She says that the move is good because she wasn't all that focused at HU, but at first she was pretty upset because she felt she shouldn't have to be "punished" because her mom is having a baby.

BabyGyrl · #6 07-26-2004

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Originally Posted by lyric_orleans

I have never known ne/one 2 be in that type of situation...but from my point of view the girl's mother should be ashamed of even asking that of her daughter. A parent is supposed to want the best for their children regardless of their own current predicaments. This is truly disturbing. I pray to God your friend doesn't give in to her mother's selfish (and clearly ridiculous) request. I could go on...but I have my own problems...I hope everything works out for ole' girl.

I agree. I think that your friend should be able to go off to the college of her choice and begin her collegiate career at a place she wants to be. It's not her fault her mother is pregnant ( not to sound mean or anything ), so she shouldnt be forced to take care of it.

ManifestDSTiny33 · #7 07-26-2004

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