Long Distance can you handle it?

MrG4 · #1 06-13-2004

Me i tried it 1 time and that ish didn't work for me
But can you handle the travel
The long weeks and sometimes months you wont be with your sweet?
I dont know if im built for that
Maybe soon i will find out
Because it's funny the people i meet here
We just dont get it
I miss my big city women
Me and this deep south dont move at the same pace
Than the one's i do find are spoken 4?
Hummmm that is why i have to look far and wide

HU_DoCé&GaBbAnA · #2 06-13-2004

I think I could handle a long distance relationship.

vanity reloaded · #3 06-13-2004

Let's just say I've done it before and well, being that I am from the left coast and I come home every summer, I just make sure that I am not seriously dealing with anyone before I leave. I've done it before and it was disatrous! I make sure to tell the dude I am dealing with ((if I have one before I leave)) that I can't make no promises, and I leave it at that. That's just the way it has to be cause 1. I aint trying to get my feelings hurt again 2. There is really no way I will know what he is doing for three whole months and I'll be damned if I keep tabs on a nig 3. Nothing in life is guaranteed.
So I figure why even worry over it? The guy I'm seeing now was constantly bickering over how he didn't want me to go home, and how he just knew other dudes were gonna be trying to get at me, I better not be messin with nobody else, yaddah yaddah yah. Well that's insecurity at its best right there and not only that but I am willing to bet he will mess with someone else just off of that cause he already thinks I am. *smh* You just have to figure out if the person you are dealing with is going to be worth your time and effort and potential drama!

:wink: 8)

ClassyWisdom08 · #4 06-13-2004

I could handle a long distance romance.It really all depends on how serious the two are.I know I'd be willing to drive and or fly to see my lover and I hope he would do the same.Of course it wont be easy...name one relationship where everything is a breeze.The key is being creative and finding what ways will better help the relationship survive.I'm 23 and there is nothing to lose at this point.

ASU_chick08 · #5 06-13-2004

i'm in one now and i'm not sure if i can handle it any longer i miss my bf...

jadekiss · #6 06-14-2004

With us being in college and most of us not staying in the city where our schools are, there are going to be thousands of relationships that will have to be carried out during the duration of the summer. For me it was a test. My first real love boyfreind went to Wilimington while I went to Greensboro...we broke up in the first 3 months. Then my second boyfreind lives in Durham and I stay in Fayetteville. With my past experiences I was fasho it was going to end as soon as we got home. Nada. It got stronger. You build your relationship off of other things than sex and seeing them everyday when you are apart for a long time. It test to see what you REALLY have in common and if you had to be apart for even longer periods of time, that you would have substance to keep it going. Thats why I think every couple needs a little distance between them after a spell or two of constantly being in each other's faces... its a secret potion that keeps me and him connected, even till today when the summer is the time when we can "talk" and I mean really talk without his boys in the background yelling and w/o my girls rushing me out the door. I love summer breaks.

cafe-aulait · #7 06-14-2004

I havent been able to in the past. This dude I used to talk to, and liked a lot, stayed on tha West side and we really connected...

But him living 45 mins away was too far to allow our relationship to really develop... and 45 mins. away is barely long distance. But I still think about how good we would have been together.