Why is it so hard for guys to open up to they girl?

Ieschia · #1 07-07-2003

I think it's because some may be scared and other may act to proud, and ****. I think it's very sexy for guys to open up to their girl and tell her how he feels. The relationship flows more smoother. Do u feel me?

Sosa · #2 07-07-2003

Well ma I can only speak for me and maybe those that'll relate to my comments, I dont have a problem opening up to my woman, cause I'm an open person and I'm very expressive when it comes to my feelings, BUT with that said I'm more cautious now than I was before based on the fact I've been that open and have gotten hurt numerous times for that reason. Men dont really open up because they wanna seem weak or by society's standards as not as manly cause they open up. I dont care about all that I open up to people I have a comfort level with. Another thing, if he not opening up to YOU, maybe it's cause you're not his main girl

abstract_07 · #3 07-08-2003

Personally, I just state however I feel. Cause how are you going to be in a decent relationship if there's not open communication? I'll tell a woman I love her. It's basically a matter of being compassionate. To let a woman know that you're not just there to sleep with them, but to be their man. But due to the fact that we are supposed to be the "less-sensitive gender", we don't always know how to show our feelings without being labeled as "whipped" or something. People will began to think we're on some Maxwell/Babyface type stuff. Plus, you rarely know if they feel the same about you as you feel about them. It has to be true love for the compassion and openess to come out the woodworks.

"One Love"

*Choklit* · #4 07-08-2003

Because they are afraid of being hurt, just like us females.

Nunda · #5 07-08-2003

For those who do have that problem, the fella may think that you will throw it back in they face when yall get into an arguement. Just a suggestion i havent the slightest clue.

In Rod We Trust · #6 07-09-2003

I think most guys don't open up simply because they are afraid. A lot of girls play games like guys do. Guys have feelings too and don't want to be hurt. It's hard to open up to someone you don't quite completely trust. It will come with time. I guess girls trust people faster than guys. The mistake a lot of girls make is trying to force a guy to open up. Sometimes this only makes it worse. When he wants to talk, he will.

Tone154 · #7 07-09-2003

I believe that a man and woman should be able to open up to one another. If a man don't feel like he can do that than maybe its because he doesn't feel uncomfortable or ready. Than again i would keep it to myself because once u tell a female your true feelings they begin to act a lil different than usual. So it really depends on how long u have been with that person and how well u trust them with your feelings.