I FEEL LIKE ****...what do I do?

[Princess LaRonda]

okay........


we're not together....we flirt...we say stuff...open invitations to the crib....we kiss....allllllllll these text messages...

But yet we never spend time together...either im off work...this cat has to work...or vice versa... or we're both off...and I have all the time...this cat doesn't....every since I've known this cat (since like end of july) this cat hasn't been involved with anybody....

But after we kissed...and stuff...and all of this "i love you" stuff....I mean we love each other as FRIENDS I guess....I'm starting to feel something stronger....Friday night this cat was supposed to go with me and some of our I guess you could say "mutual friends" and well ONCE AGAIN there was another excuse "my mom already wanted me to come home....and being that I dropped my phone in water and I have no other communication I gotta go home and deal with this" I was soooo looking forward to Friday night...like ALL WEEK....and FRIDAY came and I was sooo fukkin CRUSHED....Friday we talked briefly...tryin to get that explaination in...then the whole "whats wrong with you thing" and I'm sayin IM DEPRESSED and SAD...yeah I been cryin...cuz the way you makin me feel is just CRAZY...Friday night I went out I know I was bad company...Saturday night I layed up on my girl's couch and tried not to cry...just ramblin on and on about this cat....Sunday morning I get a call "Princess you mad at me? you haven't called me haven't texted me..you must be mad" So im like nah Im not mad...why didnt you call me...this cat says I DIDNT CALL YOU BECAUSE YOU ALWAYS CALL ME....which is true and everytime I call this cat is sooo busy and it always end up in either im sleepy or i'll call you right back and I never get the call.....soooooooo whatever.....


I've been depressed over this **** since Friday...I've been sad...yeah I've cried...yesterday I didn't eat anything...just feel soo bad....mentally and physical....and then today...I feel the same...

what do I do?

[Dr. Ash]

Damn girl, it's REALLY not that serious...all that cryin and ish...wtf? On tha real, what you cryin for? What are you depressed about?? Yeah, things didn't go as planned and yeah you were a little disappointed but damn, not eating cuz you couldn't go on a date with someone who's not your man?? Uh uh, no way. Ya know, sometimes it's better to just flirt and whatnot with some people cuz they enjoy that more than really getting "serious" cuz folks start trippin, as you have already displayed. I mean fa real, you say he's always busy and ya'll never get time together or whateva, maybe that's a sign or a little foreshadowing for things to come and you shouldn't even try to get serious with him.

[Princess LaRonda]

Originally Posted by Dr. Ash

Damn girl, it's REALLY not that serious...all that cryin and ish...wtf? On tha real, what you cryin for? What are you depressed about?? Yeah, things didn't go as planned and yeah you were a little disappointed but damn, not eating cuz you couldn't go on a date with someone who's not your man?? Uh uh, no way. Ya know, sometimes it's better to just flirt and whatnot with some people cuz they enjoy that more than really getting "serious" cuz folks start trippin, as you have already displayed. I mean fa real, you say he's always busy and ya'll never get time together or whateva, maybe that's a sign or a little foreshadowing for things to come and you shouldn't even try to get serious with him.

i shoulda just hushed.......cuz its deeper than that.....i guess...its more than just the date......only one person really understands......

but I hear ya Dr Ash.....preciate the advice...they may be true...maybe it is a SIGN

[atlprincess]

I understand everything you are saying...shoot I have been there. It's ok to feel disappointed, but crying and not eating over some dude you have known only a few months...I don't know about all that. I understand you like him, but think about it...would he be crying over you? If the answer is no, it's cool for ya'll to be friends, but girlfriend that's where you need to draw the line. I think you should talk to him about how you feel and you should have told him how you felt when he called so you could have gotten that out of the way. He hasn't been involved with someone for the whole time you have known him, and yet ya'll have still not spent time together? It seems like he is the type who may just want his cake and try to eat it too. I think you need to talk to him and if he doesn't give you the desired response, then move on. There are most fish in the sea girl!! But for real, good luck with the situation and keep us posted.

[BabyGyrl]

Originally Posted by atlprincess

I understand everything you are saying...shoot I have been there. It's ok to feel disappointed, but crying and not eating over some dude you have known only a few months...I don't know about all that. I understand you like him, but think about it...would he be crying over you? If the answer is no, it's cool for ya'll to be friends, but girlfriend that's where you need to draw the line. I think you should talk to him about how you feel and you should have told him how you felt when he called so you could have gotten that out of the way. He hasn't been involved with someone for the whole time you have known him, and yet ya'll have still not spent time together? It seems like he is the type who may just want his cake and try to eat it too. I think you need to talk to him and if he doesn't give you the desired response, then move on. There are most fish in the sea girl!! But for real, good luck with the situation and keep us posted.

I agree 100%

[Afro-American]

i mean nahd ive been there, the whole depression thing over a guy....believe me i know where youre coming from...i agree you need to talk with him and you both need to explain your emotions with each other....but girl you shouldnt be crying and not eating thats unhealthy and *cough* you are coming to Howard HAPPY AND FULL CHICA :wink: *

but you need to realize these emotions you have are normal, i mean its not weird....but you need to know that if he really appreciated you, he would take the iniative to call you first at least ONE time when you dont call...but thats another story....but god wouldnt want you to act like this over a man because he knows you are more special than that, comprende??......though you may seek companionship from another human being you have to value yourself first and realize this persoN shouold not DETERMINE your happiness or wellbeing...dont get played, and be careful though!

[In Rod We Trust]

Originally Posted by Shoya_Star

i mean nahd ive been there, the whole depression thing over a guy....believe me i know where youre coming from...i agree you need to talk with him and you both need to explain your emotions with each other....but girl you shouldnt be crying and not eating thats unhealthy and *cough* you are coming to Howard HAPPY AND FULL CHICA :wink: *

but you need to realize these emotions you have are normal, i mean its not weird....but you need to know that if he really appreciated you, he would take the iniative to call you first at least ONE time when you dont call...but thats another story....but god wouldnt want you to act like this over a man because he knows you are more special than that, comprende??......though you may seek companionship from another human being you have to value yourself first and realize this persoN shouold not DETERMINE your happiness or wellbeing...dont get played, and be careful though!

this is what sticks out to me..............
sweetie, most everyone has been there in one time or another................
u have to be easy though, let it show itself........
don't get too crazy over something that isn't helping u get where u wanna be......................
in the end u gotta dry ur eyes, put on some slow jams, pick urself up by ur damn bootstraps and keep on going.

GIRL POWER!!!!!!!